Chivalry Isn’t Dead, But I Wish It Were

I wish chivalry would just kick the bucket already.

Not just any chivalry. In particular, the unsolicited acts of male strangers that they seem to think are expected of them that I have no use for. Somewhere down the line someone must have told them that’s how to impress, woo, or generally act around members of the female persuasion. But I’m so over it. Continue reading

Girl Hate

Think about “how much more kick-ass we could all be if we just stopped tearing each other down.”  – GirlHate.com

There may not be any proof of an uptick in actual girl-on-girl violent crime. But that doesn’t mean we aren’t committing awful, hurtful, and disrespectful acts against each other all the time.

A spate of books released in the early 2000s examined aggression in girls and inhumanity between women, but the idea really took pop culture by storm with 2004’s Mean Girls. Ever since then it has seemed like cattiness is the fashionable accessory of the decade.

But we could all get a lot more accomplished—kick-ass or not—if we’d start lifting each other up instead of tearing each other down. Because we’re doing a very good job of tearing each other down.

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Does Discussing Hijab Prevent or Perpetuate Islamophobia?

The traditional head-covering worn by some Muslim women is heatedly debated. Is it oppressive and isolating for women, or freeing and liberating? In Europe, countries including France have banned women from wearing the veil in schools, courts, and other public buildings. Personally, I think religion is a deeply spiritual and personal experience that no other person is able to understand or dictate. If wearing a head-covering makes a women feel closer to or more a part of her particular strain of Islam she should feel free, safe, and supported in that decision. Continue reading

She Was Not Asking For It!

Date rape in general is a disturbing topic, but “The Real Date Rape Drug“, a post on Time magazine’s blog, Wellness, is bothering me for another reason. This particular take on the results of a new study is a classic example of blaming the victim in cases of sexual assault.

Rape culture feeds off the idea that the victim of sexual assault is somehow to blame rather than the rapist. Whether it’s because her skirt was too short, she was flirting too much, or she had had too much to drink, woman are constantly faced with the outrageous reaction “You were asking for it”.

But as Feminsting so perfectly puts it: “Being drunk isn’t what puts a woman at risk of sexual assault–being near a rapist [is].”

‘nough said.

The F Word

I’m a feminist.

There, I said it.

For so many (especially young) women, this is–unfortunately–a difficult statement to make, simply because too many people misunderstand the F word.

Take, for example, what happened to me yesterday. I went out for $3 beers and 20 cent buffalo wings with a group of my closest female friends. (Which, by the way, was just as indulgent, delicious, and fun as it sounds.) As the beer flowed, the conversation got livelier. I’m not even sure how it got started, but a comment I made drew this response from one of my best friends:

“Yeah, but you’re the only feminist here.” Continue reading